Kohler announced an alternative to a grab bar at the International Builders show. It is an effort to reach those who recognize that they need some stability in the shower or bath but are loath to get a grab bar installed. Unfortunately, vanity does not come cheaply. It requires a relatively large redo of the bath wall but it is a real step toward true universal design.
The Kohler Belay (a nod to rock-climbing) is a rail that is installed in the wall. Essentially, the wall bumps out at the handrail site. It does looks really nice. See the link below for more information. I like that companies are starting to think outside the box to encourage everyone to increase bath safety. Grab bars on the other hand are indeed increasingly stylish and can match almost any decor.
Having a grab bar installed does not make you old it makes you smart.